Let’s be real: everyone’s curious, but not everyone knows where to ask.
Self-pleasure is still wrapped in a lot of silence — especially for women. But we believe that loving yourself isn’t just okay — it’s empowering, healing, and completely normal.
At Mesanel, we’re here to answer the questions you’ve been too shy to type into a search bar. No shame. No judgment. Just the truth.
1. Is it weird to want a sex toy if I’m single (or in a relationship)?
Not weird at all — it's actually super common. Whether you’re solo or partnered, exploring your own body is healthy and helps you understand what feels good.
In fact, many people in relationships use toys together to enhance intimacy. Self-love doesn’t mean something’s missing. It just means you’re tuning into yourself.
2. Will using a vibrator make me “numb” or less sensitive over time?
Nope. Vibrators don’t “ruin” your sensitivity.
It’s true that some people might get used to a certain level of stimulation — but that’s just your body getting familiar with a rhythm. Switch things up, slow down, or try different intensities. Your body isn’t broken — it’s beautifully responsive.
3. How do I know which toy is right for me?
Think of it like choosing perfume — it’s deeply personal.
If you're new, start with something gentle and simple (like a suction stimulator or external vibe).
Focus on what makes you curious: clitoral, internal, dual stimulation? Go with what feels inviting, not intimidating.
4. I’m nervous about how it looks — is that normal?
Totally normal. Sex toys can look... intense. But rest assured, they’re designed for comfort and pleasure, not Instagram aesthetics (though we love a cute vibe too).
At Mesanel, we design with form and function in mind — so you’ll feel good before you even turn it on.
5. Where do I even start when using it?
Start with breath. Start with comfort. Start with you.
Set the mood — maybe soft lighting, a clean bed, and no rush.
Explore gently. Listen to your body. Try different angles, speeds, or rhythms. There’s no right or wrong — just what feels right for you.
6. Can I use it in the shower or bath?
If it’s waterproof, absolutely! Many toys (like our CoCo Big Mouth) are designed for steamy moments.
Just make sure to check the product description — “water-resistant” is not the same as “fully waterproof.”
7. How do I clean and store it properly?
Cleaning is self-care, too.
Use mild soap and warm water or a gentle toy cleaner. Dry it fully before storing.
Keep it in a clean pouch or drawer — avoid direct sunlight, and don’t store silicone toys together (they can react).
8. What if I don’t feel anything? Is something wrong with me?
Absolutely not. Everyone’s arousal works differently. Sometimes it’s emotional, hormonal, or even just about timing.
Give yourself space, patience, and kindness. There’s no rush to “get there.”
Pleasure isn’t a goal — it’s a journey.
9. Am I doing something “bad” by exploring this?
Let’s be clear: No. Self-love isn’t shameful. It’s powerful.
Exploring your body is a way of reclaiming agency, understanding desire, and building confidence.
You deserve pleasure. You deserve softness. You deserve to feel at home in your skin.
🌸 You’re Not Alone. And You’re Not Wrong.
At Mesanel, we believe pleasure is a form of self-respect. Our toys are created not just to stimulate, but to celebrate your body in all its forms.
Whether you’re exploring for the first time, or coming home to yourself again — we’re here, whispering softly: you are allowed.
